英语美文:婚姻、爱情与自由

2017-03-16

以下是小编整理的哲理类英语美文欣赏:婚姻、爱情与自由, 希望对你有所启发。

You are asking, "Is it possible to be married and tobe free?"

If you take marriage non-seriously, then you can befree. If you take it seriously, then freedom isimpossible. Take marriage just as a game -- it is agame. Have a little sense of humor, that it is a roleyou are playing on the stage of life; but it is notsomething that belongs to existence or has anyreality -- it is a fiction.

But people are so stupid that they even start takingfiction for reality. I have seen people reading fiction with tears in their eyes, because in thefiction things are going so tragically. It is a very good device in the movies that they put thelights off, so everybody can enjoy the movie, laugh, cry, be sad, be happy.

If there was light it would be a little difficult -- what will others think? And they know perfectlywell that the screen is empty -- there is nobody; it is just a projected picture. But they forgetit completely.

And the same has happened with our lives. Many things which are simply to be takenhumorously, we take so seriously -- and from that seriousness begins our problem.

In the first place, why should you get married? You love someone, live with someone -- it ispart of your basic rights. You can live with someone, you can love someone.

Marriage is not something that happens in heaven, it happens here, through the crafty priests.But if you want to join the game with society and don't want to stand alone and aloof, youmake it clear to your wife or to your husband that this marriage is just a game:

"Never take it seriously. I will remain as independent as I was before marriage, and you willremain as independent as you were before marriage. Neither I am going to interfere in yourlife, nor are you going to interfere in my life; we will live as two friends together, sharing ourjoys, sharing our freedom -- but not becoming a burden on each other.

And any moment we feel that the spring has passed, the honeymoon is over, we will be sincereenough not to go on pretending, but to say to each other that we loved much -- and we willremain grateful to each other forever, and the days of love will haunt us in our memories, inour dreams, as golden -- but the spring is over.

Our paths have come to a point, where although it is sad, we have to part, because now, livingtogether is not a sign of love. If I love you, I will leave you the moment I see my love hasbecome a misery to you. If you love me, you will leave me the moment you see that your loveis creating an imprisonment for me."

Love is the highest value in life: It should not be reduced to stupid rituals. And love andfreedom go together -- you cannot choose one and leave the other. A man who knows freedomis full of love, and a man who knows love is always willing to give freedom.

If you cannot give freedom to the person you love, to whom can you give freedom? Givingfreedom is nothing but trusting. Freedom is an expression of love.

So whether you are married or not, remember, all marriages are fake -- just socialconveniences. Their purpose is not to imprison you and bind you to each other; their purposeis to help you to grow with each other. But growth needs freedom; and in the past, all thecultures have forgotten that without freedom, love dies.

You see a bird on the wing in the sun, in the sky, and it looks so beautiful. Attracted by itsbeauty, you can catch the bird and put it in a golden cage.

Do you think it is the same bird? Superficially, yes, it is the same bird who was flying in the sky;but deep down it is not the same bird -- because where is its sky, where is its freedom?

This golden cage may be valuable to you; it is not valuable to the bird. For the bird, to be freein the sky is the only valuable thing in life. And the same is true about human beings.

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