使你痛苦者必使你强大 双语阅读
摘要：一项研究中发现，那些在生活中经历了一些困难人总体上表现得更加紧张和忧虑，但一些没有经历困苦的人其实也一样。
Small amounts of trauma can make us moreresilient, a new study has found
He said what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger –and it seems that philosopher Friedrich Nietzschewas right.
新的研究表明，少量的创伤能够增强我们的心理复原能力
哲学家弗里德里希?尼采曾说过：没有杀死你的只会让你更强大---现在看来尼采是对的。
Scientists have found that although traumaticexperiences such as losing a loved one can bepsychologically damaging, small amounts oftrauma can make us more resilient.
科学家发现，一些诸如失去爱人之类创伤性经历会给心理造成一定损害，少量的创伤反而能增强我们的心理复原能力。
使你痛苦者必使你强大
In one study, those who experienced many difficult life events were found to be moredistressed in general – but the same was true of some who had not faced any.
一项研究中发现，那些在生活中经历了一些困难人总体上表现得更加紧张和忧虑，但一些没有经历困苦的人其实也一样。
Those who had experienced some difficulties were the best off.
那些经历过困苦的人通常健康状况是最好的。
Other research revealed that people with chronic back pain were more mobile if they hadexperienced some serious adversity. Sufferers who had encountered either a lot or none at allwere more impaired.
其它研究也表明，在有着长期性背部疼痛的人当中，那些生活中经历了逆境的人行动会更加灵活。 而那些没有经历过很多或者根本没有经历过逆境的患病者，会更容易受到不良影响。
Researcher Mark Seery, a psychologist at the University at Buffalo in the U.S., said: ‘A lot ofideas that seem like common sense aren’t supported by scientific evidence. ‘Indeed, a lot ofsolid psychology research shows that having miserable life experiences is bad for you.
研究者马克?西里是美国布法罗大学的心理学家，他说：“许多观点似乎都只是常识，并没有科学证据支持。确实，有很多可靠的心理学研究表明痛苦的生活经历对一个人不利。”
Wise man: Friedrich Nietzsche, philosopher has been proven right
智者弗里德里奇?尼采，大哲学家被证明是正确的。
‘Serious events – like the death of a child or parent, a natural disaster, being physicallyattacked, experiencing sexual abuse, or being forcibly separated from your family – can causepsychological problems.
“一些严重的事件，比如孩子或父母亡故、自然灾害、人身攻击、性侵害、或者是被迫与家庭分离，都可能会引起心理问题”
‘In fact, some research has suggested that the best way to go through life is having nothingever happen to you. But not only is that unrealistic, it’s not necessarily healthy.’
“事实上，部分研究表明度过一生最好的方式就是什么坏事都不要在你身上发生。但这不仅不现实，也未必健康。”
He suggested that those who go through difficult experiences are given a chance to develop anability to cope with such situations in the future.
他表示，那些生活中经历了逆境的人反而获得了机会来锻炼自己的能力，以在将来的生活中处理好类似情况。
‘The idea is that negative life experiences can toughen people, making them better able tomanage subsequent difficulties,’ he said.
“负面的生活经历能够磨练人的意志，这种想法使他们能够更好地去处理之后遇到的困难。”他说。
Although he stressed that ‘negative events have negative effects’, Dr Seery added: ‘I reallylook at this as being a silver lining. Just because something bad has happened to someonedoesn’t mean they’re doomed to be damaged from that point on.’
虽然西里博士强调“不良的事件产生不良的影响”，他补充道：“其实把这看做是‘乌云背后的幸福线’。一些坏事发生在某人身上，这并不意味这他注定从此之后都是不完整的。”
His report on adversity and resilience appears in the latest issue of the journal CurrentDirections in Psychological Science.
他对于逆境和复原能力的报告被登在最近一期的《心理科学最新趋势》上。
忍不了痛苦，就见不到幸福
1、Sometimes you have to be your own hero.
有时候必须自己做自己的英雄。
2、Everybody has problems. Everybody has bad times. Do we sacrifice all the good times because of them?
每个人都会有问题，每个人都会有糟糕时刻。但要把所有美好时光，牺牲在纠结这些问题上嘛?
3、He that can’t endure the bad, will not live to see the good.
忍不了痛苦，就见不到幸福。
4、In love folly is always sweet.
恋爱中，干傻事总是让人感到十分美妙。
5、If we pass by in this crowd city one day , I’ll stop and stare at the leaving figure and tell myself that I have loved that person.
如果有一天，在喧闹的城市里，我们擦肩而过，我会停住脚步，凝视着那远去的背影，告诉自己那个人我曾经爱过。
6、Imperfection is beauty. Madness is genius. And it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.
有瑕疵的却是美的。看似疯狂却是天才。宁愿变得彻底荒诞，也不接受彻底无聊。
7、How long is a minute? That depends on whether you’re sitting on the toilet, or waiting outside the bathroom!
一分钟有多长?那要看你是蹲在厕所里面还是等在厕所外面。
8、It is not flesh and blood but the heart which makes us fathers and sons.
父子不仅血肉至亲，更是灵魂相依。
9、If you are not able to love freely, it is not real love.
如果你不能自由地爱，那并不是真爱。
10、Appreciate what you have: the people, the opportunities and the material possessions.
珍视你所拥有的一切：人、机遇以及物质财富。
11、George Bernard Shaw: A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.
萧伯纳：一个尝试错误的人生，不但比无所事事的人生更荣耀，并且更有意义。
12、Things are always working out when you at least expected it.
事情总是在你最不抱希望的时候得到解决。
13、So scared of getting older. I’m only good at being young.
如此害怕长大，因只擅长打发年轻时光。
14、One thorn of experience is worth a whole wilderness of warning.
一次痛彻心扉的经历，抵得上千百次的告诫。
15、Einstein: Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.
爱因斯坦：每个人都是天才。但如果硬要以鱼儿爬树的本领，来评估它的能力，它这辈子都会觉得自己是条蠢鱼。
16、Things will get worse before they get better. But when they do, remember who put you down, and who helped you up.
诸事在好起来之前，会变得更坏。经历这个过程后，请记住谁把你拖下水，又是谁把你拉上岸。
17、Look at the keyboard, U and I are together. Look underneath, it says JK.
看看键盘上，U键(你)和I键(我)是在一起的。再看看下面，却是JK(just kidding)。唉!
18、《The Lion King》: I only brave when I have to be. Being brave doesn’t mean you go looking for trouble.
《狮子王》：我只是在必要的时候才会勇敢，勇敢并不代表你要到处闯祸。
19、《New Moon 》: Before you, my life was like a moonless night.
《新月》：在你出现之前，我的人生就像没有月光的夜，异常黑暗。
20、If you want something, don’t wish for it. Life is too short to wait.
如果你想要某样东西，别等着有人会送给你。生命太短，等不得。